You're a Dominant...
You see a sexy submissive...
They comment in a BDSM themed post, or perhaps they've posted something on some kind of social media.
Now, what do you do? You want to reach out. How is the best way to reach out?
I know for quite a few of you... the answer to that is simply DM them. Lets for the sake of this post go with a male dom and female submissive. You reach out to her with 'hey sexy'. Fuck, some of you don't even waste that much energy... it's simply 'hi'. Some go beyond that and attempt a phone or video chat straight off the bat.
She either ignores you completely, because you've got no creativity, or she knows you're only after one thing. A wank. Or... perhaps she's nice and says hi. And politely tells you she can't play, but she's happy to chat.
Some of you are nice and leave her be. Some of you... and this is the reason I'm writing this post. Some of you will think because she's a submissive, she's willing, or supposed to bow to your feet and serve you, simply because you are a dominant. I've deliberately not capitalised the D, you know why... because this behaviour is NOT BEING A DOMINANT!
A submissive is not there to serve any fucking so called 'dominant' that comes along. You earn their respect, get to know them, know their limits, their kinks, etc. You are there to serve and protect them as much as they are there to serve you. You are NOT a dominant if you get a submissive to do what you want, simply to stroke your ego, or so you can get a quick wank over. You are an ordinary joe blow. No one special. Not worth my time.
I am a submissive, but I will only serve a Dominant who I feel deserves me. I will NOT give myself to random dicks who think by labelling themselves dominants that they are. I respect myself first, and demand that respect in return. I love myself first, before I allow anyone to love me. I will submit to you.... if you deserve my submission.
I'm probably wasting my time because the dicks that think like this... this is too long to read. (Yes, one of you dicks told me this when I was trying nicely to tell you a simplified 1 paragraph version of this post) So unfortunately, I've probably wasted my time, there.
But, if you are submissive and you're new to this scene... PLEASE, just because they call themselves a dominant/master/top/daddy... it does not mean they are. Do not submit to anyone unless you know they at the very least have your best interests at heart, that they respect you. Look after you first. Be your own Dominant before you allow anyone else to be. Educate your self because knowledge is power. And as a submissive, you have the power. The ability to say no.
If any of those other guys who like to call themselves dominant and behave in the way I mentioned above, if by any chance you've read this far. Educate yourself, learn how to be a Dominant/top.
BDSM is possibly the most exhilarating experience you'll ever have... if you know how to safely implement what you've learnt. It is NOT a tool you can use to go and pick up girls who have submissive tenancies, just because you're bored and/or you're horny and after a quick wank. Find some fucking porn and wank to that... ffs.
End rant.
Note from author: Hi guys, great first post, I know, haha.
I'm sorry, but I originally posted this on my Instagram page. But felt I needed to place the warning/message everywhere I could, as I got some positive feedback for it. I won't always rant like this, only when I feel it's necessary. More to come. Stay tuned.
With Love,
Miss Mae. xx
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